Monday, April 4, 2011

Married to A.D.D. and Not loving it.

I am sure most of you have heard of, or seen the newly publicized documentary about A.D.D. Called

ADD & Loving it?! 

If not.. Here is a brief trailer to fill you in:

Seth saw this documentary advertised the other day and set the DVR to record it. It's been a long time joke about him having A.D.D. but that's all it ever was. A joke. We have talked about medication but Seth never felt it was really needed, and he didn't want to deal with the side effects. 
After watching the documentary there has been a noted change in Seth. I should mention that he also went on to their website. www.totallyADD.com and took their assessment test. Out of a possible 27 points he scored 26. He decided his next best step was to check out the book: "You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder"



And he's been reading it daily.
It's been interesting to learn just how much ADD effects him. I always knew it's why he is so impulsive. But Road rage!?! That was a new one to me. Some of his behaviors that always irritated me are also signs of ADD. Which means I also have to change my way of thinking. Some things, like his inability to pay attention, remember details, or completing tasks, I thought he would just grow out of. It's hard to accept that these will be things that are always with us.
While Seth found the documentary fascinating I was actually really saddened by it. Listening to the woman who were married to men with ADD made me so upset. They were so calm! One wife kept talking about How you just have to be patient and be steady for them at all times. And all I could think about was screaming at her.
Seth, for his part, has been going back and forth on how he feels about finally realizing he has REAL ADD and that it's not just a joke. He is scared to go through the hassle of finding a doctor that believes in ADD and not someone who will just want to shove pills on him. I think he is struggling too, with the fact that he wasn't diagnosed as a child. I think he wonders how much different he'd be now if he'd been given the tools to help him then.
It's also odd for us to have another medical issue in the house. With my PCOS I am constantly trying to keep my mind and body in balance. He's always been the strong one for me in dealing with my disease and the impending problems arising with it. Now we both have something to deal with on a daily basis.
To help him deal with all of this, he has decided to start writing a blog on being an adult with ADD.
It's call A.D.D. You Suck!
Please go and check it out. I know he'd love the help and support.

4 comments:

Copyboy said...

That kind of stuff scares the crap out of me. Wait, what were we talking about? BTW...made you blog of the day. ;)

The Queen said...

I just wanted to stop by and tell you I love you!!!

Nora said...

Got a hubby and THREE boys with ADHD...I feel ya, GF. There are coping skills that he can learn & if he wants to go med free, which is an EXCELLENT idea, he can try herbal. VAXA International has the Attend Strategy Pac that I used to my two oldest sons to wean them from the meds that made them suicidal. Another guy worth checking into is Thom Hartmann...he's written some pretty good books on ADD/ADHD that you might find interesting. Good luck!
♥hugs♥

Nora said...

Tried to leave some comments on his blog, but the comment section has been disabled or something. Tell him to QUIT thinking that he's messed up or crazy...his brain just works differently and sometimes that's a GOOD THING. A lot of our bigger thinkers (Einstein, Edison, Ben Franklin) all had ADD/ADHD in some form. It's okay to be different.
♥hugs♥