Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Mommy Dearest.

Yes this really is my Mom and StepDad.
Monday my mom got a hold of me. It's been roughly 2 years since we have spoken We do this every few years. Usually I am the one who can't take it anymore and I call her and we become friends for a little bit.
This time however it was her. Shocker # 1. She is having heart health issues. Not a Shocker. She texted me about that and then she wanted Caden to call her. So he did, and they talked but then she asked for me. Her and I talked for an hour and a half or so. About all kinds of stuff. Thankfully most of the family is my friend on Facebook so I already knew the true bits of family gossip and I could shut her down and not listen to the twisted versions. But she kept telling me that her and her husband want to give Seth and I an acre on their property to build our own house on. First of all No. MAJOR problems would ensue. They own enough property to burry their dead and no one would find them.
But the odd thing is that these are the same people who accused us of stealing their check book and credit cards 2 years ago and then kicked us out. Gave us the number to a homeless shelter and said they would keep Caden. Did she bother to apologize for it? Nope. She just pretends it never happened. Same thing she has been bitching about her parents doing for years!!!
I am at a point in my life where I feel confident to talk to her about this. Upfront but not accusatory. Just explain how I am feeling and see what she says. I feel like I need to talk about the most recent set of events. Seth thinks I should talk to her about my childhood. So I want your oppinions on the matter.
I honestly feel I will never get the whole truth about my childhood so I shouldn't worry about it just yet. But the stuff that happened two years ago affected Seth and Caden too. And she needs to know I'm not going to sweep it under the rug. Especially since the phone call/text messages since have had her controlling-esque qualities to it. Whatever I choose to do I will probly do on Monday. And it will be by email. I might even paste my email and her response here....
But in the meantime I am just looking for your oppinions on the matter.

8 comments:

Eva said...

Sometimes the only way to work through issues is to bring them out in the open. And honestly, sometimes that makes it better and sometimes that makes it worse. But if you know that keeping it inside forever will bother you, I think you need to confront her with it. I've had a family issue like that and it helped to say something. I wish you luck with whatever you decide.

Allie said...

I agree with Eva. Rip off the band-aid... it might hurt a little, but it will feel so much better afterwards.

Laina said...

I agree with both comments. Sounds like a sensitive subject with deep wounds. You can't go wrong with honesty, especially if you have a lot of hurt from her that is just buried inside you, that kind of stuff will weigh you down. I would just tell her whatever is on your heart at that moment you write her. Just pour it all out. However it comes. You have the right to speak your mind and she needs to hear it. Whether it's about the last couple years or it's from ten years ago. Good luck to you! :)

~J said...

This is a tough one...but I'm all about finding closure in all things...I think addressing it would really make you feel better in the long run--even though it's gonna hurt while you're doing it! Sending my strength!

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Nikki said...

We've already talked about this whole thing, so I won't go into it again. MWUAH.

BUUUUTTTT I have to say, I love the photo you chose for them. It's sooo perfect, and so something they'd hate to see.

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