Sunday, April 11, 2010

Nag Nag Nag

I have been trying to make changes recently. Trying to at least see behind What's not working. But I have come to a spot where I am stumped.
I have always prided myself on not being a nagging wife. If Seth asks, or the situation warrants it, I will tell him how I feel, and then what he chooses to do about it is his own decision.  I don't feel the need to remind him over and over again what I already said.
But Seth wants to be reminded over and over. I have different ideas why that is. But even when I am told to remind... I still feel like I'm nagging.
If Seth is watching tv and I ask him to put his dirty clothes in the laundry and he says he'll do it in a minute, and then twenty minutes later when it's not done and I do it myself, he gets irritated that I didn't remind him.
But if it's something I need done right then and I remind him to please please do it...he gets irritated.

This is one of those daily frustrations that I hate dealing with. I'm not a nagging/remindering kind of person. It makes me crazy.

So, In a very Carrie Bradshaw-esque voice,

When are you crossing the line between reminding and nagging?


Nikki said...

From the conversations I've heard, and those you've told me about, you are far far from a nag.

On one hand if thats what he wants/needs to do what he's asked, then by golly woman jump on it and embrace your nag side.

On the other hand, you are not his mother, he's a grown man and should be able to be responsible enough to handle it after being told once.

But everyone does this to some extent, it really comes down to can you put up with this and how to handle it so you can. If you're not happy, keeping your mouth shut isn't working, and you may have to stand up and put your foot down.