Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Forgivness

There are those who clutch to resentment like it were a treasure of great worth. This is foolishness.
The question to be asked is not how badly we were wronged, but what are we profited by our unforgiveness?
My grandpa used to say that The heaviest load a body could carry was a grudge. When you carry around somethin heavy all it does is wear you out. It doesn't make you stronger until you put it down.
So when you carry around a grudge you're giving that person a power over you, the control of dragging you down.
I have “forgiven” my parents so many times. Always realizing that it was only a forgiveness that came from time healing hurt. When I realised that my first thought was "Oh well."
But they aren't a part of my life anymore.So why bother forgiving them?
And then it hit me...Forgiveness is not some gift I'm giving them. More than likely they will never even know.
And that's the key... I must forgive them if I ever want to be free of them. We are indellibly chained to that which we do not forgive.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy but because the Ship is.
Someone once said that "Anyone can forgive if they will make the decision to. It may not come all at once, as resentment is a habit and must be coaxed from the heart. But with time it will come."
Forgivness doesn't mean Im excusing all they did or even letting them back in. It simply means Im letting them go.
I do believe that forgiveness is the greatest way of showing love though.

2 comments:

Inge' said...

Well said! I think a big misconception about forgiveness it that we have to let the person back in our lives to cause more chaos.

That is not true as you have learned. I agree that some resentments are buried deep and take a lot of time and growth to remove them.

But, as you so aptly put it, it is about control. Thanks for sharing!

Eva said...

Forgiveness is a wonderful thing. Something I have never been very good at unfortunately.