tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993644207542008368.post1191220677261227959..comments2023-10-28T03:39:13.588-07:00Comments on Miss' Boudoir: This is NikkiMissCrystalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00375374143582598912noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993644207542008368.post-86832472194985784062010-01-06T09:20:23.263-08:002010-01-06T09:20:23.263-08:00It sounds partly like you want badly to make a cha...It sounds partly like you want badly to make a change because you are so exasperated with your current circumstances. You want to focus your energy on making that change instead of on writing. I think if you do that, your writing and other things are still going to be there when you are ready to do them again. Although, when you say you want to stop writing, reading, and singing to change yourself because of all the people in your life who have hurt you, it sounds like frustration talking because you want so badly to make a vast change and because you've been so hurt. Of course it's not your fault that these people have hurt you, and changing who you are deep down for these people would just be allowing them to hurt you even deeper. You don't want to let these people harden you or turn you into a shell of yourself, so that years later you regret it. But I think it is mature of you to question why you might have chosen certain people to be in your life. And it is mature to evaluate ourselves and see what positive changes we can make in ourselves during times of crisis. Because after all, we are all that we can change in life. However, stopping things you love to do in order to change yourself sounds kind of like stopping eating altogether when wanting to lose a few pounds--it's tempting to go to the extreme and punish ourselves, but we know it doesn't work in the long run. For what it's worth that's my opinion, but I could be way off and have no idea what I'm talking about.figmentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03204614463250153802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993644207542008368.post-47587438922115141222010-01-05T19:21:19.404-08:002010-01-05T19:21:19.404-08:00Don't ever give up writing, or dreaming or bei...Don't ever give up writing, or dreaming or being who you are. You are an amazing person, and inspiring. I look forward to reading your posts and delving into the mind that is "Life as YOU see it". If there is any piece of advice I could offer it would be to never stop believing in yourself and never give up who you are for the sake of someone else. Always do what's right, and you know what's right because it's hiding in your heart. <br />Thank you for your inspiration. Please, let us now, inspire you to keep going.Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11217271340928929622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993644207542008368.post-32200747889482876962010-01-05T18:29:38.292-08:002010-01-05T18:29:38.292-08:00Thank you Allie!! You'd think after all these...Thank you Allie!! You'd think after all these years Miss would believe me when I tell the truth. But hopefully seeing your post, and others she'll change her mind about letting all this go and changing. <br /><br />You rock Miss, you always have, you always will. It's those around you that need to change.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04211787279212875031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993644207542008368.post-43825776495925770642010-01-05T17:16:55.858-08:002010-01-05T17:16:55.858-08:00I may not be as old as you are, but I think that w...I may not be as old as you are, but I think that writing is sometimes the only way to cope with hardship. It is true that it does not fix situations, but I find that after I write in my journal or on my blog and REALLY get everything out, I am able to see my situation more clearly. Books and writing offer an escape- the freedom to be whoever you want and delve into the life of someone else. Sometimes, it's the best thing to have that escape. It is true that you should not spend all of your time on books music and writing, but it's part of who you are as a writer and creative thinker. You are SO TALENTED and you shouldn't stop doing what you love because of some problems. Your writing does not only help you- it helps me and probably more people who read your blogs. Being able to identify to someone else's situation sometimes provides new insight into one's own life. Giving up your passions will probably make you feel even more empty than before. I know it feels like you need a complete life makeover, but what you should really do is view your problems from all angles. My grandfather has always told me that he grew up with the notion that one should look at things from every angle in order to find the right solution. Life is messy, but trying to clear out everything and start over can often make things worse. I have never been part of anything close to your experiences, but as a high school student I often feel as though I'm not good enough for people. In reality, the best thing I can do is try and find someone who makes me as happy as I make him. Trying to become a new person (especially someone I'm not) won't make me feel any less undeserving of experiences and people. I really hope you continue to live the life you've been having. Granted, you've hit more severe bumps than I have, but I think you'll find that the hurt is only going to make you stronger and better in the end.Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861062027173333574noreply@blogger.com